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Something is Not Better than Nothing – To be Single or Not to be

[cs_section id=”” class=” ” style=”margin: 0px; padding: 45px 0px; ” visibility=”” parallax=”false”][cs_row id=”” class=” ” style=”margin: 0px auto; padding: 0px; ” visibility=”” inner_container=”false” marginless_columns=”false” bg_color=””][cs_column id=”” class=”” style=”padding: 0px; ” bg_color=”” fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″][cs_text id=”” class=”” style=”” text_align=””]Are you single or in a relationship that may not be for you? Have you settled? Do you think that having something is better than nothing? Have you considered the opportunities that you may be missing because you settled? Everyone that comes into our lives provides us something that we need at that time. So depending in what mental or emotional state you are in you will attract someone who fills what you may be needing at the time. Although they give you something that you have been wanting or needing they may also come with a lot of what you don’t want. With that being said you may find yourself in a relationship that does not serve you. It is so important to be honest with yourself. Only you know what you want and need from a relationship. In this day and age we live very busy lives and making the time for someone can be challenging. Time is precious so how and with who you choose to spend your time with matters. Why settle for crumbs when you can have the whole cake.
First off be clear, who are you? What do you want? What are your non-flexible deal breakers? What is most important to you? Ask yourself “why would anyone want to be with you”? How will being with you make someone else’s life even better? What do you have to bring to a relationship? What do you want to give of yourself? Often people go in search of relationships not being clear of what they want or who they are. They go in search of a relationship in the hopes that another person can complete them or make life better for them. This is not good nor bad but not the best way to go into a relationship. Then your happiness and sense of self would be dependant of this relationship. This is a lot to put on another person and also risky. It is risky because it is inevitable that people will leave us or we will leave them either by death or by choice. At the end you will always have you and the relationship with yourself. However, how would life be like for you if you already felt complete on your own? Would it be possible that bringing another person to your already amazing life would only make it that much more amazing? YES!!! Of course it would!
So before you go looking for a relationship, look into yourself first. Get grounded in who you are. Most importantly accept all of you, the good the bad and the ugly. You know the areas in your life that could use improvement. Focus on building your self confidence if you are having challenges. If you feel really confident, then get clear on what you want and go for it! There are many amazing people and it is important that you believe that to be true. This will allow you to see the greatness in others instead of their flaws. When those flaws pop up then you can decide if they are part of you non-flexible deal breakers and go from there. Never settle for crumbs!!! You are worthy of having the whole cake.

Are You Ready For A Relationship?

Are you really ready for a relationship?  There are so many people signed up on dating websites and working with matchmakers to find their soul mate.  But are they even ready to create a new healthy and unconditional loving relationship?  Often people carry on the baggage of a life time to the next relationship and the only thing that happens is that they create a relationship that looks different and still create the same result as they did in previous relationships.  Does self-love determine our choice?  Yes, indeed.  If we are desperate for love we will settle for crumbs and come from a place of neediness and the other person becomes our life.  But if we love ourselves we look to meet someone that we can give our love to and share our life with.  If you are in search of a mate ask yourself “Who am I”?  It is so important to be clear who you are, what is most important to you, what are your values, what is your worth and that you be solid in your stand of who you are.  Creating a relationship coming from a solid place allows you to not sell out on yourself and settle for what is not for you. It is also very unlikely to lose yourself to another.  If you are looking for a person that is a 10 then you get to be a 10 or be taking committed steps towards it.  Do not ignore the red signs.  Often people overlook the very obvious when meeting someone or pretend to not know that there are red signs everywhere.  The signs say this persons values are not in alignment with mine and they end up getting caught up in the physical attraction.  Years later they are complaining about what they knew from the beginning.  Don’t be that person.  Be honest with yourself.  Life is precious and so is time.  You are worthy of having the relationship you desire.  Do not sell out on yourself.


Say “Yes” to you!

It’s time to start saying “Yes” to you.  How often do you put your commitments aside to be there for others?  Did you ever stop to think that when you put your commitments and your fun time aside to be there for others that you are saying “No” to you.  I invite you to notice how often you say “No” to you.  Now, I am not saying to not be there when others need you.  What I am saying is don’t sell out on yourself by doing for others at your expense. Saying “Yes” to you is how you tell yourself that you love yourself and that you are worthy of having it all.   Always think “win, win”.  Ask yourself, how can I say “Yes” to me and say “Yes” to them as well?  Often we jump to help others who really do not need help therefore enabling them.  Or we spend our time doing for others to avoid ourselves.  Remember that saying “Yes” to you will give you more energy, therefore be able to be there for others in a bigger way.  You are worthy of everything it is that you want.