Are you really ready for a relationship? There are so many people signed up on dating websites and working with matchmakers to find their soul mate. But are they even ready to create a new healthy and unconditional loving relationship? Often people carry on the baggage of a life time to the next relationship and the only thing that happens is that they create a relationship that looks different and still create the same result as they did in previous relationships. Does self-love determine our choice? Yes, indeed. If we are desperate for love we will settle for crumbs and come from a place of neediness and the other person becomes our life. But if we love ourselves we look to meet someone that we can give our love to and share our life with. If you are in search of a mate ask yourself “Who am I”? It is so important to be clear who you are, what is most important to you, what are your values, what is your worth and that you be solid in your stand of who you are. Creating a relationship coming from a solid place allows you to not sell out on yourself and settle for what is not for you. It is also very unlikely to lose yourself to another. If you are looking for a person that is a 10 then you get to be a 10 or be taking committed steps towards it. Do not ignore the red signs. Often people overlook the very obvious when meeting someone or pretend to not know that there are red signs everywhere. The signs say this persons values are not in alignment with mine and they end up getting caught up in the physical attraction. Years later they are complaining about what they knew from the beginning. Don’t be that person. Be honest with yourself. Life is precious and so is time. You are worthy of having the relationship you desire. Do not sell out on yourself.